Premature Ejaculation - You Are Not Alone

If you’re anything like me, and you’ve suffered from premature ejaculation (PE) for as long as you can remember, then the simple words “stop/start” and “squeeze” probably make you want to run up to the roof, raise your arms to the sky, and shout at the top of your lungs:

“I’m mad as hell and I’m not going to take this anymore!”

That’s because for the past 30 years, doctors, therapists and other experts have recommended these “simple” techniques — squeeze and stop/start — as an effective means of curing PE. But for as long as I’ve been practicing as a sex therapist, which is over a decade now, guys have been telling me, in no uncertain terms, that these techniques don’t work, that these techniques are among many premature ejaculation myths.

I can relate. The whole reason I even became a sex therapist was because of my struggles to “overcome” PE. I learned the hard way what works and what doesn’t. One woman I was dating got so fed up with all of my stopping and starting that she shouted: “Jesus, what are we doing — parking a car or having sex?” And as far as squeezing goes, give me a break: Trying to stop the buildup of arousal and stave off the gusher of ejaculation with a gentle squeeze of the head of the penis is like trying to plug the BP oil spill with a few gobs of toilet paper — totally pointless.

I’m an “expert” and I say screw the experts! Most of them haven’t lived through the hell of PE, and if they have, then they know they’re lying when they recommend just a few simple steps to cure it and they should be ashamed of themselves. I’ve dedicated my life to better understanding PE and helping guys deal with it.

- Ian Kerner